Comments on: Would You Post a Personals Ad in a W4W Forum?

By: Ben

Ben — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 03:27:48 +0000

I wouldn’t post under women seeking women, because I would be falsely representing myself. I would post under women seeking men, but if contacted, would clarify my trans status. Our local alternative weekly newspaper (more liberal), also has “women seeking ?” and
“men seeking ?” columns, and “men seeking trans” and “women seeking trans”.

By: G

Tue, 20 Sep 2011 19:20:04 +0000

I’d rather post on a site that had M4M or T4M and T4T options. I couldn’t face the idea of pretending to be female when I know I’m really a guy on the inside. If I posted a W4M ad, imagine the sheer horror if the guy who responds is straight and temperamental! It would NOT go well for him to find out that I am actually a dude. I say this while I am pre-everything.

By: J

Mon, 04 Jul 2011 00:07:56 +0000

I got rid of this issue by posting for bisexual women only. Someone who is into both males and females is the safest. I now look male over 90% of the time, but I am not going to get bottom surgery. I got rid of a lot of complications about sexual identity by going for people who are more blind toward genitalia.

By: IC

IC — Thu, 19 May 2011 03:47:39 +0000

Never, ever, ever.

By: Sebastian T

Sebastian T — Mon, 09 May 2011 00:47:14 +0000

Personally I would post somewhere else because I don’t yet have the “equipment” to pleasure a woman and I wouldn’t want to mislead anyone. Perhaps I’d post women seeking men with a message that I’m a transguy and not a cisguy but since the trans world is so new to most people I’m guessing most women are not cool with dating a transguy. I would be most comfortable on a site for the GLBTQ community.

By: damien

damien — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 19:28:10 +0000

uhh.. no. considering i see myself as a man I wouldn’t say that I’m a woman looking for a woman. I’d rather have someone who sees me as male

By: Joshua

Joshua — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 14:31:52 +0000

I would like to remind commentators that the question in the poll is what would YOU do, not how do you judge others’ choices in this situation. Lose the judgment, folks!

By: Saren

Saren — Sat, 08 Jan 2011 05:59:34 +0000

I’m a non op ftm and I’ve always been involved with straight or bi women. I dated lesbians and not only was i not what they were looking for in bed, somehow them trying to “eat me out” was unappealing.

By: Danny

Danny — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 01:02:08 +0000

Well considering they do not have a t4w section on most sites and that heterosexual women are 9 times out of 10 completely against dating transmen where else would you post? m4w is meant for bio males looking for bio females unless they have a t option it makes no sense to post anywhere but w4w with ftm in the subject line. I don’t mind dating lesbians, I am part of the GLBT community too. They know I am not a lesbian and if they don’t as my gf doesn’t mind then what is the problem? As long as they are accepting of you there should be no reason to be so judgemental. I have no reason to post an ad considering I am engaged but I do think it close minded to say that one must post in m4w which to me doesn’t much make sense as you won’t get replies if you’re completely honest. While on the subject I also hate when transguys go stealth…I would never pretend to be someone I am not. I am a transman and I am proud of that. I have identified as lesbian in the past and have studied the glbt community for years it saddens me that we all have our own agenda and none of us on the same page. Gay, Lesbian, Bi and Trans need to come together if we are ever going to get any rights because the division in the community is what hurts us the most. How can we expect to be treated equal outside of our community when we try so hard to dilute any link within our community? Just food for thought…

By: Kyo

Kyo — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 14:25:23 +0000

It’s complicated – I can say outright that I would never degrade myself by calling myself a woman in anyway, posting under w4anything would feel like that to me. Cis boys and cis girls who were into butch girls nd femme boys respectively would and should be chased off. On the other hand, I totally get that there is kinda a safe space in the les community for ftms. The problem I’ve run into specifically is zero place in the gay community – gay men treat me majorilly with contempt. And I’ve heard similar stores from gay mtfs about the lesbian comunity. It’s just frustrating. Being a gay identified transboi, not yet passing terrifically… I guess I’m lucky because I’m not looking for a real relationship, but dammit getting laid is just impossible.