Comments on: Has Your Sexual Orientation Shifted Since You Started Identifying as Trans?

By: Evan

Evan — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:42:09 +0000

I’ve always only been attracted to men and since I’ve started living as male, I’m still only attracted to men. I went through a brief period thinking I was asexual because I didn’t want to be sexually active with a male partner, but once I realised it was because I couldn’t have sex as a woman, I knew I was really a gay man. When I’m on T, I don’t think that’ll change as I’m just not attracted to the female body in any way, it’ll probably make me stare at guy’s bums a lot more…

By: Ben

Ben — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 03:24:03 +0000

I wonder if I’m now sexually attracted to a wider variety of gender expression because of testosterone giving me a good sex drive. I’m post-transition FtM 12 years. It could be more involved than that, but I don’t know the answer!

By: Lauri

Lauri — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 18:55:36 +0000

I’ve considered myself as a bisexual all the time but I’m more interested in women. Men look nice, too but I could never imagine myself in a relationship with a guy.

By: Nathaniel

Nathaniel — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 17:28:53 +0000

I’d say it changed only in that I accepted myself as more masculine and started accepting that I was attracted to very feminine energy. Not diva-ish, but sweet femininity. But instead of exclusively being interested in FAAB individuals, I realized I could be just as attracted to men with that level of femininity. Sure took me a long time to get there! That firsthand experience really opened my eyes to the infinite dynamics of sexuality, and now I’m out as Pansexual – attracted to highly feminine energy!

By: lukas

lukas — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 12:30:49 +0000

Before coming out as trans I always identified as lesbian and, apart from two drunken incidents, only had sex with women. I did always find the thought of sex with men arousing in my head but found in reality it didn’t fit well with my feminist politics, ie. the men (mainly online and sometimes acquaintances) often found it arousing to have sex with a butch lesbian because it fulfilled their idea that all I needed was a ‘real’ man to sort me out!I never really came across the odd queer man who would maybe have not felt like this. However, since identifying as a man, this door has been sprung wide open for me. I’ve only been out a month but seriously look forward to the adventures ahead of me

By: Shaun

Shaun — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 01:03:24 +0000

Yes, for most of my life I was only attracted to women. However since ive started testosterone therapy I have noticed a physical reaction to a guy i work with. Before i started T his body odor was simply “stinky” but since beginning transition when i get close enough to him to notice his smell, I get a strong physical reaction..I call it “instant horny”" it feels like being punched in the gut. Makes working with him a challenge. I am married to a pre-op transwoman, and she likes the fact that i come home from work with my “engine revved up” since she gets to put the car in drive. I have also noticed a change in fantasies, from mostly female to a mix of male and female situations.

By: jessi

jessi — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 03:46:27 +0000

I really dont know how to put a label to myself but I know I like men and there’s only been a few girls I liked its really hard for me to explain what im going through its odd because I don’t like girlxgirl or guyxgirl porn is it weird to say im a girl who feels,thinks,acts etc. A boy but I like boys. Am I straight or what its so hard to say

By: Maize

Maize — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 11:12:58 +0000

Before I started identifying as male, I went through a confused state of both bisexuality and brief lesbianism. Neither bothered me, as I’d always been extremely comfortable with the idea of any sexuality, for myself or others.
However, I had begun to realize it wasn’t the thought of being a lesbian that intrigued me, it was the thought of being with one’s own sex. During this time I went through a heavy stage of porn watching and masturbation – something I’d never really been that fond of before. It was then that I discovered the miracle of gay porn. It was this, actually, that spurred the thought that I was transsexual. Heterosexual and lesbian porn does nothing for me whatsoever, especially now that I’m a happy transman.

So now, I could confidently say that I’m a gay transman, and have been with my current cis, bi boyfriend for about a year.

I mean, I don’t find the idea of being with a woman repulsive, transwoman or au naturale equally, but it’s not something I think I’d persue very far.

In conclusion, yes, I suppose. Somewhat. Technically I went from straight, to bisexual, to lesbian, to bisexual again, then I transitioned and was a bit cloudy between bi and gay for a while, with short spans of asexuality peppered in between, when I just wasn’t sure what I wanted. Now I’m gay, with a bit of a bi tendency.
Hell, maybe I’m just pansexual.

By: Yevgeny

Yevgeny — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 03:35:27 +0000

Funny story: I came out as bi some years before coming out as trans and my mum said that me being bi was fine as long as I only dated men…after I came out as trans she said, ‘It’s a good job you’re bi. From now on you had better only go out with women.’

But more seriously it was my bisexuality that helped me work out I was transgendered. I explained to several friends when still living as a woman that: ‘I feel gay when I fancy a man and straight when I fancy a woman.’ I thought (and so did my friends) that I was the only person in the world to feel like this, but at the age of 19 I heard about transgenderism and my sexuality suddenly made perfect sense.

The only difference I’ve noticed with T is that I am a lot more relaxed about sex than I used to be, and I don’t think that is entirely the result of being happier with my body. Otherwise, no change. I only actually had sex with one person before transitioning, I was so alienated by my body, and that one sexual relationship was partly inspired by a determination to be sensible and scientific and rule out an acute case of jealousy over my own virginity before I catagorically decided I was trans. As experiments go it was as successful as it was traumatic and my only regret (once I had stopped crying in corners etc.) is that it ruined what was otherwise a promising relationship.

I would say I definitely on the gay side of bi (or pan), especially when it comes to love rather than lust, but unfortunately I now seem to be considerably more attractive to women (especially transwomen) than to men, so have had a string of rather shallow and short lived relationships. Mostly I don’t bother involving other people in my love life at all. I also have a tendancy to fall for completely unavailable, even inappropriate, people, which is possibly my subconscious saving me from rejection by not making a relationship an option. This isn’t an especially trans phenomenon, though: anyone with body hang-ups can be afflicted thus.

Interestingly, I have never yet been attracted to another transman, which possibly makes me technically heterosexual! Weirdsville.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 14:34:40 +0000

I always liked men when I was living as female, and still do after 19 years post-transition. Partnered with a gay cis-man.

I did notice after starting T that I started *looking* at women (which came as a surprise!), and I still do enjoy looking – but really not interested enough in doing anything about it that I want to go through the whole courtship/pursuit thing. I suppose if the opportunity was dropped in my lap I might go ahead as an experiment